I work with all women. The women I work with range in age from 16-48. Some of them are in high school, some in college; some of them have an associates degree, some only have a high school education. Some have young children, some have teenage children, some are pregnant, and some have no children. Some of the women I work with are skinny, some fat; some tall, some short; some liberal, some conservative; some Christian, some Muslim, some "undecided". But the ONE thing that MOST of the women I work with have in common are that they are all bullies.
"Mean Girls" is the new terminology for these type of women. Most of you remember these types of girls from grade school and high school. You were either the "mean girl" the "wanna be mean girl" or the girl that the "mean girls" bullied. Unfortunately, once these girls graduate from school and become adult women, they do not outgrow their bullying ways. They just graduate to "mean women". Some of these "mean women" are bold, in your face bullies. Others are rumor spreading, gossipy women who are nice to your face, but then as soon as one of the "bold mean women" comes around, they talk about you behind your back. If you are not a mean girl, they will lure you in with their seductive bullying ways until you are wrapped up in the drama. Then there are the passive-aggressive mean girls. The ones that don't say a word until the situation is over. And then WHAMO! They want to "discuss" it with you. These are almost the worst type of bullies. The "shit stirrers". "Can't leave things alone" bullies. And as most of you know, the more you stir, the worse it smells.
Mean women like drama. They thrive on it. The nastier the situation the better. These women actually get an emotional "high" when the drama is going on. They love the fact that someone is hurting, someone is being damaged, that someone's life is in turmoil. It makes their own boring, average, day to day lives seem wonderful compared to what is going on with the woman being bullied.
Now a day in a school setting, there is a "No Bullying" policy. Children are taught that if they feel they are being bullied, they are to go to the teacher and let her know. What about the mean women? Are they to go to the boss and complain about being bullied? What if the boss is one of the "mean women?" Who is the woman in the situation suppose to go to, to confide in, to get support from? If the woman who is being bullied tries to defend herself, it makes the "mean women" bully her even more.
If I have learned anything from working with a bunch of "mean women" it's that eventually they will grow tired of the current situation at hand, and will go searching for a new dramatic situation to get involved with. Unfortunately, in my line of work, I will always work with women, whom the majority are "mean". Maybe my next job should be working for a construction company full of men ;-)
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ReplyDeleteIT's sad that some people feel the need to tear others down in order for them to feel good about themselves. It's hard to find a place in oursleves where we can almost pitty those people b/c they do not know happiness in their lives to step away from them and not get caught in their drama they surround themselves with.
Hope you find a nice girl to work with soon.